Our Wedding

Wednesday, 18 November 2015
Pull up a chair, grab yourself a drink, and let me tell you all about our wedding.

There are a LOT of photos, so apologies if it takes a while to load!


The venue
We got married at Wedderburn Castle in Duns in the Scottish Borders.  A beautiful grand house with a stunning lawn out front, aaaand the biggest selling point for us - pretty converted barns fit for a gorgeous rustic reception.  We settled on Wedderburn after viewing a couple of other barn venues (The Byre at Inchyra and Kirknewton Stables - both beautiful, but ultimately not "the one").  We pretty much fell in love with the place on first visit, and after taking my parents along for a second opinion we were all sold.

The owners Cat and David were super helpful throughout - from our initial enquiry, to our show-round, to the months (and months) of emails, and then the weekend of the wedding itself.  If you're looking for either a grand traditional castle wedding, or a rustic Pinterest friendly barn celebration, or a bit of both (like we did!), then I definitely recommend taking a look at Wedderburn.

The outfits: the bride
Firstly, the most important bit - the dress!  Right from the start I knew I wanted a short or tea-length dress, so Lady JoJo's was the perfect place to start as they do a fab range of 50's style dresses.    I went for the Marilyn dress - a tea length lace dress with capped sleeves and a stunning embellished lace overlay.  I loved it so much!  It was the perfect dress for spinning in too as it flared up a right treat.  Do you think I could get away with wearing it to my work's Christmas party?  Or the next wedding I attend?  No??

Not being one for heels, I decided to go for flat shoes and found the perfect pair of embellished sandals in Debenhams (the flat version of these), and by lucky coincidence, they were in the 50% off sale so they were an absolute bargain.  I also bought some glitter roll-a-sole shoes to change into in the evening.

For jewellery I kept it pretty simple with a couple of delicate personalised pieces - an L heart charm bangle from not on the high street, and an L & B heart necklace from Etsy. I kept it simple with lingerie too, opting for practical over sexy with this Freya nude bra (with clear straps) and nude control pants from Yours Clothing.  One thing I'm pretty proud of is the fact that I was able to pee unaided all day thanks to my short dress - haha! It did take me about 10 minutes each time due to having to squeeze my suck-you-in-pants back on, but still - PROUD.

The outfits: the bridesmaid
My sister and bridesmaid Nikola wore a beautiful mint dress from Lipsy with an embellished top and full tulle skirt.  I searched online for aaaaaages, looking at so many different websites and different dress styles and colours before settling on this one.  She wore the same shoes as me, and also wore a matching bangle as I gave her an N version as a gift on the day.

The outfits: the groom & best men
The lads (lol) wore blue 3 piece suits from Next with tan shoes and pastel ties.  In keeping with the mixed pastel theme, they each had a different colour of tie/pocket square - with Mark in mint (matching with Nik), Phil in lemon, and Blair in blue.  Don't they look handsome??!  The ties were bought from various places, and then I bought them pocket squares online which luckily matched up perfectly.

The rings
We decided to go for something a little bit different for wedding rings rather than the usual wedding bands, so headed to Etsy.  Blair ended up with a wooden ring with a lapis lazuli inset, while I went for a silver bark effect ring.  We both love our rings, and I like that even though they look completely different, they have that wood/bark/tree link.

The hair & makeup
I didn't want to look drastically different to how I look normally, so didn't go for anything too OTT with my hair and makeup. One big tip I'd give any brides to be is definitely do trials before the big day as I made some tweaks after mine to make sure I was 100% happy with the look.

I'm not really a hair up girl so I decided to go for a half up/half down do.  My hair stylist Gillian gave me soft curls with a bit height through the top and babies breath flowers twisted in the back.

For makeup, I generally go for the same look every day so I just wanted a slightly fancier version of that.  My makeup artist Carol gave me a subtle smoky eye, with rosy cheeks and a nude pink lip (Mac Creme Cup).  At night I changed my lipstick to Mac Russian Red - my red lips signalling that I was ready to p-a-r-t-y.

The flowers
Booking my florist was one of the easiest wedding planning decisions for me, as my good friend Sophie (I Heart Flowers) is an amazing wedding florist.   Luckily for me Sophie knows her stuff as I know F-all about flowers so the ideas were all hers.  I basically just told her the sort of colours I wanted (mixed pastels - peach, pink, mint, lilac etc) and she came up with suggestions of the type of flowers that would work with the theme and season.  I am so pleased with how it all turned out - she is a floral genuis!  Everyone commented on how beautiful the bouquets were and how great the flowers looked in the reception.

My bouquet was a beautiful mix of pastel hues, finished off with pastel and chevron ribbons.  Nikola had a slightly more simple bouquet of babies breath, with matching buttonholes for the rest of the wedding party.  For centre-pieces on our tables at the reception we went for small posies in tins & jars that I'd collected and painted in pastel colours.  Really simple (and cheap!) but really effective.  We also flower jars displayed on an old step ladder (that also held our table plan), and on crates outside the barns with candles.  

The ceremony
We held our ceremony in the castle in the ballroom - a beautiful light airy space with mint hues that fitted perfectly with our colour scheme.  We had a humanist ceremony which meant we could make it really personal and include lots of stories about us and how we met.  We also wrote our own vows, which were a mix of funny and serious things.  My favourite bit was Blair's line about promising to continue to nurture our shared love of Ryan Gosling...!

There were also a couple of unintentionally funny moments, like our celebrant pronouncing my surname wrong not once but twice, and one of the best men mixing up the playlists so we ended up leaving the ceremony to the same song I arrived to (Wings by Birdy, rather than Don't Worry Baby by The Beach Boys).  Neither of us cared though about the things that went wrong - we just laughed!

The reception
Our reception took place in the barns at Wedderburn - the perfect rustic setting for a Pinterest perfect wedding!  We went for a mixed pastel colour scheme, with hints of chevron stripes.  I absolutely LOVED how it all turned out, the pastel theme worked really well with the rustic setting and the chevron stripes were a nice quirky detail.

Another theme at the reception was sitcoms.  TV is a big shared passion of ours, especially sitcoms, so we definitely wanted to try incorporate that somehow in the day.  Our tables were named after some of our favourite sitcom characters - Alan Partridge, David Brent, Larry David, Malcolm Tucker, and Leslie Knope.  We had quotes from each character written on the pick n mix wedding favour bags at each seat - gathering the list of chosen quotes was definitely a fun task!

Other sitcom elements to the decor included Friends themed door signs for the toilets, posters for the disco barn featuring music/dance related quotes (e.g. "Would you like me to lap dance for you?" from Alan Partridge, and "I sort of fused flashdance with MC Hammer shit" from The Office), and a poster of Ross from Friends infamous LOVE poem ("O is for....oh wow!").

We did away with a couple of the more traditional elements of a wedding reception - so we didn't bother with a receiving line (I always find them really awkward), and we weren't "introduced" into the room (we just wandered in with everyone else).  Nothing radical, just trying to make it a bit more relaxed.  We also didn't have a master of ceremonies to introduce everything, so instead I took on the MC role and introduced the speeches and cake cutting etc.

Ahh the speeches.....everyone had been really nervous about doing these but they all turned out to be so good!  Each one made me laugh so much - I can't wait to watch them back when we get our wedding video!  There were a lot of really hilarious stories (including some from the best men about Blair that I hadn't heard before) and really sweet bits too.

Instead of a normal guestbook at the reception we had collected postcards from all the cities we have visited and asked people to write up a postcard.  The guestbook table had a travel theme, with a suitcase to collect the cards (borrowed from Kirsty), a globe, and a pinboard featuring photos and mementos from our travels.

The food
We had canap├ęs at the drinks reception, including mini burgers, chicken satay skewers and potato wedges.  I think I only ended up eating one potato wedge though as I was so busy chatting - although I think that's fairly normal for the bride and groom!  Our reception drink was a cocktail - vodka, apple & lemonade - as neither of us are big fans of champagne or prosecco.

For the wedding breakfast we chose a hog roast - potentially a risky choice as not everyone likes pork, but it seemed to go down very well!  The meat was served with crispy crackling and stuffing, rosemary and garlic roast potatoes, and mixed veg - so good!  There was pasta with tomato & mozzarella for the veggies.

For desserts I wanted to do something a bit different so we organised our own dessert table.  I actually forgot I'd agreed to this and only remembered about 2 weeks before the wedding so had to frantically work out what we wanted to serve!  I ended up buying mini cupcakes, macarons and cheesecakes from M&S, and then making 2 different traybakes (one white chocolate crispie cake, and one rocky road), vodka jelly shots, fruit & marshmallow kebabs, and a "make your own eton mess" station (i.e. a bowl of berries, a plate of mini meringues, and some spray cream!).  I got so many compliments on the desserts, so I'm really pleased I didn't just go for the easy option and choose something from the venue's catering menu.

Our cake was from Liggy's Cakes and was a simple buttercream 3 tier with different flavours at each layer.  We had vanilla sponge on the bottom, chocolate in the middle, and the red velvet on the top.  All 3 cakes were AMAZING - we actually ended up taking some leftover pieces on our honeymoon with us - we had planned on eating them on the train to the airport but they ended up being left until we got to Rhodes - mmmm, squashed cake!

The wedding cake was served later in the evening alongside some hot rolls - making sure that everyone kept their energy up for more dancing. There were bacon, sausage, black pudding and egg rolls - an absolute godsend when you've been drinking all day!

The entertainment
To keep people entertained before & after the ceremony we had put together an L & B quiz which was left on everyones' seats in the ballroom.  A lot of the questions were answered in the ceremony during the "how we met" story, so that was one way of making sure everyone was listening very carefully!  The quiz winners (Kirsty and Adam) were given a sitcom goodie bag including a stapler in a bowl of jelly (The Office), a chocolate orange in a superficially damaged box (Alan Partridge), and....The Geller Cup (Friends).  Yes - I actually bought a troll doll and nailed it to a piece of wood.  Weirdest wedding task ever.

As the drinks reception took place outside on the lawn we laid out some lawn games.  I wasn't sure if people would actually play the games but I'm pleased to say that they did! It was quite funny watching people running around playing frisbee in their fancy outfits (I even had a go myself!).

For the evening entertainment we decided to go for a disco rather than a band.  As I'm sure I've mentioned on here before, I am not a fan of ceilidhs in the slightest (and neither is Blair luckily) so there was no chance that was even an option.  We hired Shaun from Good-Souls Discos to be our DJ for the night and he did such a good job with the tunes - we had everything from Taylor Swift to Queen to 5ive to The Monkees to Adam Rickett.  I even had a message in our guestbook from the bar staff praising the song choices!  We had asked people to leave a song request in their RSVPs, and we also gave Shaun some notes on the type of music we were looking for (I wanted it to be a bit of a journey through the decades), and we were both so chuffed with the playlist he came up with.

Our first dance was to I Love You by The Bees, a song chosen by Blair and one that I hadn't heard of before but loved the moment I played it for the first time.  Our last dance was to The Power of Love by Frankie Goes to Hollywood.  Ultimate cheese!

Capturing the day
Our photographer was Craig from McBeth Photography.  He was great - he made us all feel really relaxed and comfortable in front of the camera, and he managed to incorporate the photoshoots throughout the day seamlessly so it didn't feel like we were being dragged away from the fun to get photos taken.

We also had videographers on the day from Swift Productions - this is something we'd originally unsure about booking, but eventually decided that the lasting memories we'd get from a video were worth the extra cost.  I'm so glad we did this as there's so many moments from the day that I can't fully remember (like the speeches) so I can't wait to watch them back again.  Similar to Craig, the guys from Swift did such a good job of blending into the background and making us feel really relaxed, and not like we were being constantly filmed.  I'd definitely highly recommend both companies if you're on the lookout for wedding photo/videography.

An unofficial way we captured the day was by asking people to use our official hashtag - #LBWedderburn - when posting photos on Twitter/Facebook/Instagram etc.  Unfortunately there wasn't actually any wifi at the venue so people couldn't post at the time, but it did mean that the next day we could sit and look through all the pics being uploaded once people were home which was lots of fun!

So there we have it - our wedding.  I can't believe it's actually happened.  I'm a married lady!  Mental.

I hope you enjoyed hearing about our day and seeing the photos.  I'm planning on filming a video for my Youtube channel where I'll chat more about the wedding day itself and how it all happened, so make sure you're subscribed if you'd like to see that!


  1. That was great to read all that and understand your thoughts of the day :)

  2. I have been far too excited about this post haha. You look absolutely stunning, I love your dress and everything about your wedding is beautiful! I love the theme, I just can't get over how beautiful it all is! Congratulations on getting married.
    Kloe xx

  3. Beautiful wedding and love the way these photos capture it!