Wedding Countdown

Tuesday, 1 September 2015
Technically 3!

As I write this, there are just 3 weeks left until I get married, so I thought it was about time I gave you an update on what's happening.  I can't quite believe that it's so close, it doesn't feel like that long ago that we got engaged in Copenhagen, but a busy year and a half of planning has passed since then.

If I'm honest, I've really enjoyed the whole wedding planning process. I know people say it's one of the most stressful things you'll do in your life, but I haven't felt like that at all.  Sure, there have been a couple of wobbles - like Blair's trousers being out of stock, or me only realising a week ago that I'd agreed to organise our own dessert table - but they sorted themselves out pretty quickly, so <touch wood> it's been pretty plain sailing.  

With just a couple of weeks to go, all the big stuff is organised so we're onto the little details like finalising the menu, writing our vows, buying clothes for the honeymoon etc.  I feel like my every waking moment is consumed with planning, so come the end of September it will be nice to be able to think about something other than weddings!  As I said though, I have really enjoyed the whole process so I'll probably not know what to do with myself once it's over.  I'll need a new hobby!

I'm not going to go into details on the plans for our big day just yet - but I will fill you in on a couple of things:

Things that were easier than expected

The Dress
One thing that was much easier than I expected it to be, was finding the dress.  I fell in love with my dress in the second shop I visited, and it was only the 5th or 6th dress I tried on overall.  In fact, the minute we walked into the shop my mum eyed the dress, picked it up and said "this is it".  Mums know best eh?  I can't wait to show you photos of it, I've been going for a couple of fittings recently to get it tweaked so it's a perfect fit, and I fall more in love with it every time I try it on.  Ahhh it's so beautifuuuul!

Table Names
This was one of the first things we decided on actually.  An idea came to me randomly one day and when I mentioned it to Blair he suggested a small tweak, and ta da - our table name theme was done.  Another thing I can't wait to share with you as I love it so much!

First Dance
Now I say this was easier than expected, but that's mainly because I was barely involved in the decision!  I left this one to Blair - he came to me with a song he liked, I listened to it once and immediately loved it, so decision made. Amusingly, the name of the band is actually a nickname we have for each other, although Blair didn't notice the connection until I pointed it out.  Definitely meant to be!

Organising the seating plan
Another task that former brides had warned me was a pain in the ass – this was surprisingly fun!  I started mentally planning the tables really early on in the process, and very quickly came up with a seating plan that has pretty much stuck.  I obviously had to adjust it when we got RSVPs back as not everyone could make it, but generally the groupings are the same as the ones I came up with when we first wrote our invite list.  We’re lucky in that we have quite long tables, so it’s not a case of having to divide everyone into groups of 8 or 10 (some of our tables are as big as 18 people), which I think made it easier. 

Ignoring the traditions
We decided quite early on that we wanted to do away with as many of the traditional wedding day elements as possible, without being too alternative (i.e. we’ll still be having a ceremony where we stand up in front of our guests and read vows, followed by speeches, food and a reception!).   I thought this might raise some eyebrows from family members, but luckily no one has minded at all.  After all, it is our wedding day and if that means we want to do away with a receiving line, or if we want to have cocktails instead of champagne then we can!

5 hours worth of decoration stringing!

Things that were harder than expected

When I made the decision to design my own invitations I think I had an unrealistic expectation of just how difficult that would be, especially when you have zero photoshop skills like me.  As I said in this post - I ended up using Fotor to design them and I am super happy with the eventual result, buuuuut it did take me a hell of a long time to get there.  I'm glad we went down the DIY route though, as it means no one else will have the exact same stationery as us.

Getting RSVPs
Whilst on the subject of invitations, getting RSVPs back from our guests was much harder than I thought.  As I am such an organised person (with my many lists and spreadsheets) I think I just took it for granted that we'd get RSVPs back really quickly, so as soon as we sent them out we were excitedly checking the post every day.  In reality though, people get invitations, stick them up on their fridge, and then remember 2 days before the RSVP date that they haven't sent it back yet.  I should have realised this, as we have done the same with many a wedding invitation!  It also didn't help that a couple of responses got lost in the post - thanks Royal Mail!

Finding a Humanist
I had no idea how far in advance you need to book someone to do your ceremony.  We started looking during the Christmas holidays (a whole 9 months before the wedding) and EVERYONE was fully booked.  We eventually found someone after discovering an independent humanists of Scotland group, which I had no idea even existed until a family friend mentioned someone they knew.  Even then though, our humanist was pretty much the only person in the independent group who was available on our date too (luckily she's lovely and we got on with her right away).  So yes, definitely a tip I'd pass on - once you get engaged, get your minister/humanist etc booked up straight away!

Choosing a honeymoon destination
Oh man was this a CHORE.  I don’t know if it’s because I work with hotels and therefore I’m perhaps a bit more picky than your average person, but I spent weeks researching locations and hotels online.  I’m not exaggerating when I say that at one point I had a spreadsheet with 100 options on it.  I’m not even sure how I eventually found the hotel we went with – I think I randomly stumbled across it and after showing Blair some photos we were both sold (after I’d read the Tripadvisor reviews, checked various sources for prices, and looked at every possible flight combinations.  OBVIOUSLY).

Finding Wedding Shoes
This also took FOREVER.  I spent months searching pretty much every website that sells shoes to try and find something I liked.  The problem was, I wanted flat shoes and it’s quite hard to find flat wedding shoes that aren’t just boring cream (or that don’t have lame diamantes or bows on them).  I was *this close* to spending £120+ to design my own shoes through a website I’d found and then I read a blog post about a wedding that my friend had provided the flowers for and the shoes the bride was wearing were perfect.  I clicked the link and was delighted to find they were currently in the Debenhams blue cross sale so I got them for an absolute bargain.  Woop woop! 

Finding Wedding Lingerie
I was unsure if I wanted to go for pretty or practical for the wedding day, and unsurprisingly, practical won out.  I went to my first ever proper bra fitting at Bravissimo a few weeks ago and while I was there I tried on various strapless bras, some in nude and some in cream, and the one that fitted best was a plain nude so I went with that.  I thought about getting nice pants and then wearing some sort of corset/tummy control panel but all the ones I tried on were soooo uncomfortable that I gave up on the idea.  Instead I got a pair of super comfy Maidenform control pants that suck me in but don’t have any boning so don’t dig in at all.  Not the sexiest of get-ups, but at least everything will be in the right place!

So there you go, hopefully you feel up to speed on all things wedding!  Like I said, I didn't want to go into too much detail just now, but I'm actually planning on doing a series of posts once I'm back from Rhodes at the end of the month.  I'll share everything with you, from the outfits to the decor to the stationery to the honeymoon, and everything in between.  So if you love a bit of wedding chat then you'll be very happy, and if you hate wedding chat then….well at least I'm giving you fair warning. ;)


  1. eeek weddings are so exciting, it feels like my wedding was years ago even though we've only been married 3 years! My friend is getting married in 2017 though so I'm looking forward to helping her plan things. Hope it all goes to plan for you over the next few weeks :)

    Jade x
    Girl Up North | UK Lifestyle Blog

  2. Aaaaaa you were such a beautiful bride! I can't wait to see all the pics and hear all the chat from your big day and honeymoon lady! Lets have a facetime when you are home xx